What a Year....

2014 has been a heck of a year.  So much has gone on that the year has flown by and I feel as if I barely blinked.  I wasn't blogging like I should. I just never seemed to have the time for things I typically like to do.  CC and I were able to go on a couple of trips but otherwise remained busy busy busy.  Doing what, I have no idea.

The Son is doing well.  He is working steadily, going to school and is living with his long time girl friend.  I still financially back him quite a bit but attitudinally, he is doing much better and for that I am truly grateful.

Mom and Grandmother are not doing so well.  My grandmother has been placed in a home and my mother has had several hospitalizations and still keeps beating the odds.  Lots of flights and long driving trips up each time.  My father just had a knee replaced. It's been stressful.

So, with all of that under my belt, I am hopeful for 2015.  I want to make the most of each year.  Seeing my grandmother and mother both ill brings mortality home on a personal level.  I vow to slow down, smell the roses.  Not to worry about things I cannot change and to act upon those I can.  I vow to try to be a better person each day.  Always trying to do better than the day before.  I vow to be there for CC, my Son and family and to love them as long as I'm able.

Family Woes

My grandmother has been ill. Very ill.  I took some time off of work in order to see her while she was in the hospital.  She has decided she will do nothing further other than take oral medications.  She was d/c'd to a home.  She has not been eating, she goes to bed every night stating that she wants to not wake up.  She is tired and I can't say that I blame her for feeling that way.  My mother isn't doing well. She feels exhausted from all of this.  She goes to the hospital/now home daily to see my grandmother.  My mother has COPD and is on O2.  She has called her brother in Chicago who has come down to help out.  I don't know how long all of this can be held together before it breaks.

I've had it

I'm just plumb worn out. I ache all over and have no motivation. I took off the rest of the week hoping to change my attitude. I hope it works otherwise I just lost three vacation days for nothing.

Funerals and Family

My grandfather has passed away.  He was 89 and just died, no major disease and therefore he went the way we all probably want to go when it is our time.  He was a giving wonderful family man with 5 children.  My father is the oldest of the 5 and the baby is one of my best friends as she is only two years older than me.  (Got to love those big Catholic families).

The 4th child, my uncle T (for tightwad), was the POA over his financials.  He has been an absolute ass his entire life and now that his father has died, he has continued in grand form.  Throughout my grandfather's decline, he has monitored the money, complained if the facility was too expensive when he couldn't live at home anymore, etc.  The house and belongings were auctioned.  Of course, Uncle T took the car, gave to his daughter, took everything he wanted.  THEN told the rest of the family, they had to attend the auction and bid on whatever they wanted.  My dad wanted a train set they had in the family since my dad was small.  Grandpa always said, when I die, you can have it.  Uncle T sold it to a stranger without batting an eye.

The days that followed the passing were extremely stressful.  My Aunt wanted to put a line in thanking the home for their care of my grandfather, Uncle T said, "no, it's $8 a line".  My grandfather grew up in Meade County KY.  All of our family is there.  My aunt wanted to put an obit. in the local paper so everyone would know.  Uncle T, "You pay for it if you want to".  This behavior goes on and on and on.

It is the most disgusting display.  He is saving all the money, feels he is due an inheritance.  He is due nothing but no one cares, he will get money and be left in emotional poverty.  I haven't spoken to him in almost 20 years because he isn't much of a human being.  This has sealed the deal.  No one will have anything to do with him…  I will be first in line to disown him from the family.  We do not have that kind of person in our family.  I have no idea how he became that way and have no intention on sticking around to find out.

It's been a while…..

It has really been a while since I have blogged.  I have no one to blame but myself.  CC and I have been busy in the past year remodeling the house and living life that blogging has taken a back seat.  That is no excuse but there you are.

Things with the Son have been better.  Since I have moved, he has really had to be more self-reliant.  Not that I do not subsidize him heavily as he goes through life but the fact he has to figure out how to get his laundry done and feed himself is at least a small step forward.  For anyone who is interested, he is currently employed, lives with a coworker and they share a house owned by said coworker's father.  The coworker is pretty laid back so they get a long pretty well.  He is still on again/off again with the love of his life and that is okay.  She is going away to Vincennes University in the fall.  I have no idea how he is going to get along without her close.

The house is completely remodeled. Our last project is a new roof that will be going on in the next month.

Things are going in a positive direction and it feels pretty good.