We should have known that everything with the house was falling into place just a bit too easily. Everything was moving along swimmingly and WHAM! We have been trying to get all of the financing set and were waiting on a couple of documents. One of which was the appraisal so the bank could move forward. We received it on Friday. The problem is the appraisal was 40k less than the contract price. I KNOW!!!! We were floored! This house started out 80k more than the appraisal. We thought because the guy dropped 25K and we got him down an additional 16K no problem. You look at comps when you set the price for your home. Apparently something went wrong. Right now we don't know if the guy will just say forget it and hold onto the house until the market comes up, if he will lower the price and sell to us or what. We are kind of in the dark until then.
On the home front, I received an offer on the house here in IN. But, they just wanted too much and as the house has only been on the market for a month, we decided it would be best to let them go. I don't want to be homeless at any rate.
So, I spent the better part of this morning online looking at houses. One should always have a plan B.
Saturday, February 26, 2011
Wednesday, February 23, 2011
WTF Wednesday
It's time for another edition of WTF Wednesday. Today's topic...... Idiots in the workplace. This isn't about my workplace but my CC's. CC works at a local hospital on 10 hour shifts. They almost always end up as 12+. Today we are at 13 and some change and will be 14 or better before he gets home. He still has to work on Thursday.
This facility believes that physicians are God and bring in the almighty dollar so whatever they want is what the staff is to give. It becomes ridiculous when all physicians want the same time slot for testing when the slots are already booked. Or everyone wants morning slots but then those physicians don't show up on time and everything gets thrown off. He is at his wits end with this job and to be honest I can't blame him. There is no relief in sight where this job is concerned.
I am trying like heck to get all of the information together for this mortgage on our new home so he can turn in his two weeks in a little over a week. That way he will be done with that place by anticipated closing date and he won't have to go back there again. I hate that he has to go to work where he is miserable. I want to be able to tell him to quit now but with the mortgage up in the air we just can't.
He rarely gets to eat supper with the rest of us. His supper is cold and that is just not fair to go into work day after day and never have any idea as to when you will be able to leave. We cannot plan anything for after work because quitting time for him is up in the air.
I know life is not fair but damn!
This facility believes that physicians are God and bring in the almighty dollar so whatever they want is what the staff is to give. It becomes ridiculous when all physicians want the same time slot for testing when the slots are already booked. Or everyone wants morning slots but then those physicians don't show up on time and everything gets thrown off. He is at his wits end with this job and to be honest I can't blame him. There is no relief in sight where this job is concerned.
I am trying like heck to get all of the information together for this mortgage on our new home so he can turn in his two weeks in a little over a week. That way he will be done with that place by anticipated closing date and he won't have to go back there again. I hate that he has to go to work where he is miserable. I want to be able to tell him to quit now but with the mortgage up in the air we just can't.
He rarely gets to eat supper with the rest of us. His supper is cold and that is just not fair to go into work day after day and never have any idea as to when you will be able to leave. We cannot plan anything for after work because quitting time for him is up in the air.
I know life is not fair but damn!
Monday, February 21, 2011
Whirlwind of Activity
It seems as if it's been forever since I have posted. CC and I have been gathering paperwork, getting quotes, inspections, etc. all for our big Florida purchase. Every time I buy a house it seems as if they have changed all of the rules. I think we have everything pretty set. Just a couple more forms to turn in (I think) and we should be good to go.
We have been showing the house here a lot. Keeping a house ready to show with teenagers and dogs is a feat in itself. It can make a person exhausted. We have managed to repair most of the damage done by the Son's last outburst and think we may be receiving an offer sometime this week. I hope it is one we can work with. My realtor is the one showing it for the other couple so it will keep the commission down a bit which is a good thing. Every penny counts. I am really looking forward to all of this and moving forward with our lives.
We anticipate closing the week of the Son's spring break. I have told him he can ask his GF to go with us to Florida. He can help with unloading the furniture etc. They will be able to go to the beach and maybe Busch Gardens. I am hoping this turns out to be a good thing. Things have become a bit calmer where he is concerned. I don't know if he has resigned himself to doing it my way or what exactly. I did take him to the doctor and he is now taking Zoloft. Boys depression exhibits in different ways than girls, many times through anger, frustration, etc. I am hoping this is a good step. It will be two weeks on Friday and we are going back to the doctor for follow up at that time. He will be going to take his written driving exam on Tuesday this week and the skills exam on the following Tuesday. That is the plan at this time. I am hoping we can all maintain our composure until that time. I have not had any arguments or bad behavior in the mornings. I have been taking him to school every day and driving is never mentioned. Thank goodness! That whole scenario was really wearing me out.
I guess the last thing to really take care of is telling my mother. She is the only person who doesn't know about the house, moving, etc. I have postponed it as long as I can and it is getting down to the wire so I will need to tell her. I just wanted to delay having to listen to her as long as I possibly could. Wish me luck!
We have been showing the house here a lot. Keeping a house ready to show with teenagers and dogs is a feat in itself. It can make a person exhausted. We have managed to repair most of the damage done by the Son's last outburst and think we may be receiving an offer sometime this week. I hope it is one we can work with. My realtor is the one showing it for the other couple so it will keep the commission down a bit which is a good thing. Every penny counts. I am really looking forward to all of this and moving forward with our lives.
We anticipate closing the week of the Son's spring break. I have told him he can ask his GF to go with us to Florida. He can help with unloading the furniture etc. They will be able to go to the beach and maybe Busch Gardens. I am hoping this turns out to be a good thing. Things have become a bit calmer where he is concerned. I don't know if he has resigned himself to doing it my way or what exactly. I did take him to the doctor and he is now taking Zoloft. Boys depression exhibits in different ways than girls, many times through anger, frustration, etc. I am hoping this is a good step. It will be two weeks on Friday and we are going back to the doctor for follow up at that time. He will be going to take his written driving exam on Tuesday this week and the skills exam on the following Tuesday. That is the plan at this time. I am hoping we can all maintain our composure until that time. I have not had any arguments or bad behavior in the mornings. I have been taking him to school every day and driving is never mentioned. Thank goodness! That whole scenario was really wearing me out.
I guess the last thing to really take care of is telling my mother. She is the only person who doesn't know about the house, moving, etc. I have postponed it as long as I can and it is getting down to the wire so I will need to tell her. I just wanted to delay having to listen to her as long as I possibly could. Wish me luck!
Wednesday, February 9, 2011
And Continued Drama....
And the saga continues. The Son continues to "want to die" because he cannot drive. He has taken to fits of rage which he has always had. He is so upset when he doesn't get what he wants that he explodes and destroys things. He says he can't control it or himself. I have told him before he needs to be medicated but he won't do it. Today was the final straw.
He wanted to take the car to a classmate's house to work on a history group project. My first reaction is "Why are you all of a sudden interested in school 3/4 of the way in?" He states it's a group project and the whole group will fail if he doesn't participate. He says he won't go if "his Mommy" has to drive him, he will take the F. "Ever heard of Skype?" I said. He goes ballistic. He NEEDS a car. He has things to do and when freshman and sophomores are driving into the school it pisses him off even more. No one changed the driving law purposely catching him in the middle of it. He is killing me over the time from now until March 1. As per previous post, they cancelled the driving portion of the test until he is the proper age.
He kept on and on, getting louder and louder. Tangent time. He called me while I was walking through a local hotel on my way to my car in the parking garage. I just couldn't take it. I lost it. I told him about how he is "so hard done by" by having to wait. Many people get a license and have no car or have to earn the money themselves for their first car. This car is worth about 7K he will be getting and he wants to complain. I will sell the thing and he will have nothing. He can worry about getting around then. He only thinks of himself. If anyone throws him a bone, he is never grateful, he wants the whole damn dinosaur. Screw it, I'm tired. He will need to just get over himself and his attitude. Blah, blah, blah.
Well he started to scream and get upset. In stereo nonetheless as I was in the car. By the time I got home, there was a wall decoration on the floor, broken in the hall. I went into his room and there is a huge hole, about 2x3 in the wall that will need to be professionally repaired due to its size. During the next hour, he ripped his bedroom door off of its hinges and broke the door frame on the door from the basement into the garage. I made him get in the car, we were going to the ER as he has lost all control. He got in only because I was telling him I would call the police and have them physically take him to the ER. We got down to the street the hospital was on (about 10 minutes). He had calmed down considerably. I told him that if he would agree to go to the doctor's office with me tomorrow and would take medication, we would not go. But, he is not going to live at our house without the medication.
He agreed and we started toward home. It was short-lived. He started in again on the way home and I shut him down. He started the pacing and the raging and I told him I was calling the cops. He called a friend and packed a bag. He has left and I haven't used my phone to track him yet.
I love my son more than anything but he needs help and I can't take this anymore. I accept the blame of spoiling him but I didn't think he would become the person he has.
I will be scheduling the appointment tomorrow as soon as the office opens. If he is not receptive, well, then he can stay wherever he is tonight again tomorrow. CC anticipates it is about 1K of damage that has been done as entire doors/frames, etc have to be fixed and have a professional fix the large gaping drywall hole. I am trying to decide whether to sell the car and give him a POS to limp him from here to there or what. He is breaking my heart but I am trying to do what is right. God help us all survive.
He wanted to take the car to a classmate's house to work on a history group project. My first reaction is "Why are you all of a sudden interested in school 3/4 of the way in?" He states it's a group project and the whole group will fail if he doesn't participate. He says he won't go if "his Mommy" has to drive him, he will take the F. "Ever heard of Skype?" I said. He goes ballistic. He NEEDS a car. He has things to do and when freshman and sophomores are driving into the school it pisses him off even more. No one changed the driving law purposely catching him in the middle of it. He is killing me over the time from now until March 1. As per previous post, they cancelled the driving portion of the test until he is the proper age.
He kept on and on, getting louder and louder. Tangent time. He called me while I was walking through a local hotel on my way to my car in the parking garage. I just couldn't take it. I lost it. I told him about how he is "so hard done by" by having to wait. Many people get a license and have no car or have to earn the money themselves for their first car. This car is worth about 7K he will be getting and he wants to complain. I will sell the thing and he will have nothing. He can worry about getting around then. He only thinks of himself. If anyone throws him a bone, he is never grateful, he wants the whole damn dinosaur. Screw it, I'm tired. He will need to just get over himself and his attitude. Blah, blah, blah.
Well he started to scream and get upset. In stereo nonetheless as I was in the car. By the time I got home, there was a wall decoration on the floor, broken in the hall. I went into his room and there is a huge hole, about 2x3 in the wall that will need to be professionally repaired due to its size. During the next hour, he ripped his bedroom door off of its hinges and broke the door frame on the door from the basement into the garage. I made him get in the car, we were going to the ER as he has lost all control. He got in only because I was telling him I would call the police and have them physically take him to the ER. We got down to the street the hospital was on (about 10 minutes). He had calmed down considerably. I told him that if he would agree to go to the doctor's office with me tomorrow and would take medication, we would not go. But, he is not going to live at our house without the medication.
He agreed and we started toward home. It was short-lived. He started in again on the way home and I shut him down. He started the pacing and the raging and I told him I was calling the cops. He called a friend and packed a bag. He has left and I haven't used my phone to track him yet.
I love my son more than anything but he needs help and I can't take this anymore. I accept the blame of spoiling him but I didn't think he would become the person he has.
I will be scheduling the appointment tomorrow as soon as the office opens. If he is not receptive, well, then he can stay wherever he is tonight again tomorrow. CC anticipates it is about 1K of damage that has been done as entire doors/frames, etc have to be fixed and have a professional fix the large gaping drywall hole. I am trying to decide whether to sell the car and give him a POS to limp him from here to there or what. He is breaking my heart but I am trying to do what is right. God help us all survive.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011
Drama Drama.....
And the saga continues... The Son is still griping about his license. He still has about 19 days until he can get his license. We were scheduled to take the driving exam today. We figured he could get it out of the way and just come back for the licensing. Now, I spent over $300 for him to go to Drivers' Education. It was my understanding that would take the place of the written exam. I was wrong. I received a phone call from the BMV today from the person who was to conduct his driving exam. He states Son still needs to take the written portion of the test. He can take that at any time. But.... As he will not be old enough for licensure until the end of the month, we need to reschedule. I said okay and hung up. This was at around 0930. School was on a 2 hour delay due to snow/ice and the Son was still at home. I was afraid he was going to have a snit fit and decide he wasn't going to attend school at all so he could sit home and sulk so I purposely waited until he was on his way in with a friend to text him and tell him the news. Of course, that makes me oh so popular..... I informed him I needed to go to get tags for my car so he can go and take the written portion if he wanted to. I received a "God damn it, nevermind". So, I took that to mean he was not interested in taking the test and there was no need in picking him up from school. Tangent.. I left out I was to sign him out of school early so we could make the appointment for the driving portion of the test...
I had a conference call at work beginning at 1pm. It ended early, 1:30. I was working away when my phone rang. "Where are you?" I replied, "Work." "I thought you were going to pick me up?" Me, "You said nevermind so I neverminded." Son, "Well I'm out of school". Me, "Why would you do that?" Son, "Because.. I hate school anyway and you had already said you were going to sign me out." Me, "But you said nevermind".
Of course, this is a battle of logic which my son has none of and therefore, winning for me is empty as he doesn't see it. I get attitude about how cold it is and school will let out by the time I can get there and "forget it". I swear he had to have been switched at birth. There is no way he can be mine......
I had a conference call at work beginning at 1pm. It ended early, 1:30. I was working away when my phone rang. "Where are you?" I replied, "Work." "I thought you were going to pick me up?" Me, "You said nevermind so I neverminded." Son, "Well I'm out of school". Me, "Why would you do that?" Son, "Because.. I hate school anyway and you had already said you were going to sign me out." Me, "But you said nevermind".
Of course, this is a battle of logic which my son has none of and therefore, winning for me is empty as he doesn't see it. I get attitude about how cold it is and school will let out by the time I can get there and "forget it". I swear he had to have been switched at birth. There is no way he can be mine......
Flurry of Activity
Wow. It has been some time since I have blogged. So much has happened over the past couple of weeks, it seems a bit of a blur.
Importantly, we have a contract on a house! The owner countered and we accepted. We are so excited!! The inspections were completed yesterday and CC and I completed a loan application last night and have been approved to purchase the home and there is no contingency on selling our current home first. That is such a relief! We really have no idea how long it is going to take to sell this one and we don't want to lose the one we want in Florida. My Dad was available to oversee the inspections so CC and I did not need to fly down for that. We were glad he was available. We say we are not in a big hurry but I know CC would move down there tomorrow if he could. It is currently snowing here and we will only reach a high of 30 degrees tomorrow. I'm sure that doesn't warm his heart for Indiana.
Last week was a definite kick in the pants. Monday I flew out of Louisville to Reagan National to attend a conference in D.C. National Harbor MD to be exact. I was there in the capacity of an exhibitor. This means I stand all day behind a booth, smile a lot, and hand out give-away items until they are all gone. My flight Monday A.M. was cancelled due to plane trouble and I was re-booked. Needless to say, I arrived too late to make the dinner I was to have attended and ended up grabbing a sandwich and going to my room. Tuesday I manned the booth which was uneventful. Lunch was awful but I survived the ordeal. Most of the team was attending the Wizards' game that evening so I returned to my room, changed, and went down to the hotel restaurant for dinner alone. It really doesn't bother me. My Kindle came in really handy. They had a really lovely Cabernet. I dined on mussels and then back to the room. Wednesday began rainy. I was thankful I remembered to bring an umbrella. We wrapped it all up by 1pm and I grabbed a cab and headed to the airport. Most of the team was leaving the following day but as I had no meetings to attend, I decided to fly home early to get caught up on my work.
The rain had turned to snow by 5 P.M. when I was boarding the plane. They had begun de-icing planes about 30 minutes prior due to the temperature drop. Many other flights were cancelling around us and they delayed our departure trying to fill every seat. The snow kept coming hard and fast. We required an additional de-icing. We were preparing to leave the gate area when we were told we needed to wait while they removed the snow from the runway. As that took several minutes, another de-icing was in order. We were pushing away from the gate when the pilot stated the plane needed to go back to the gate as it needed to be started. I KNOW! Basically there is some something that it couldn't do and there was something at the gate they could use. Some airplane jargon. At any rate, the mechanics had a bunch of paperwork to complete before they could even start. They finally got to do there thing and they closed the airport as they couldn't keep the runway clear. I was stuck at the airport. My rebooked flight in the morning was cancelled as Philadelphia airport closed. I was rebooked again for 1:20 in the afternoon and finally got home. It was an ordeal I do not care to repeat again.
This week has been something else when it comes to dealing with the Son. He wants to drive so bad he is actually resorting to having temper tantrums. "It's too humiliating to go to school". "I'm having a panic attack and need you to come and get me." "I can't take all the people laughing at me because my Mommy takes me everywhere." "Fxxk my life." "My life sucks." WHATEVER!!! He is a spoiled brat. He tells me he wants to hurt someone or something. I tell him he needs to get himself under control. If I need to come and get him I will but we will go to the ER as he is having trouble keeping himself and others safe. Funny.... Clears it right up. Comes home laughing with his buds. I swear, I want that kid to get his license more than he does just to get him off my back. He is wearing me out on a daily basis. Fits, tantrums, attitude. Taking crap out on me because things don't go his way.. Sheesh! I'll sell the darn car and then he can have a license but have to walk! Grrrrr....
This post was started on 2/2/2011 and just finished today, 2/8/2011. My graphic chip went out in my MacBook and I had it in the shop. Go figure....
Importantly, we have a contract on a house! The owner countered and we accepted. We are so excited!! The inspections were completed yesterday and CC and I completed a loan application last night and have been approved to purchase the home and there is no contingency on selling our current home first. That is such a relief! We really have no idea how long it is going to take to sell this one and we don't want to lose the one we want in Florida. My Dad was available to oversee the inspections so CC and I did not need to fly down for that. We were glad he was available. We say we are not in a big hurry but I know CC would move down there tomorrow if he could. It is currently snowing here and we will only reach a high of 30 degrees tomorrow. I'm sure that doesn't warm his heart for Indiana.
Last week was a definite kick in the pants. Monday I flew out of Louisville to Reagan National to attend a conference in D.C. National Harbor MD to be exact. I was there in the capacity of an exhibitor. This means I stand all day behind a booth, smile a lot, and hand out give-away items until they are all gone. My flight Monday A.M. was cancelled due to plane trouble and I was re-booked. Needless to say, I arrived too late to make the dinner I was to have attended and ended up grabbing a sandwich and going to my room. Tuesday I manned the booth which was uneventful. Lunch was awful but I survived the ordeal. Most of the team was attending the Wizards' game that evening so I returned to my room, changed, and went down to the hotel restaurant for dinner alone. It really doesn't bother me. My Kindle came in really handy. They had a really lovely Cabernet. I dined on mussels and then back to the room. Wednesday began rainy. I was thankful I remembered to bring an umbrella. We wrapped it all up by 1pm and I grabbed a cab and headed to the airport. Most of the team was leaving the following day but as I had no meetings to attend, I decided to fly home early to get caught up on my work.
The rain had turned to snow by 5 P.M. when I was boarding the plane. They had begun de-icing planes about 30 minutes prior due to the temperature drop. Many other flights were cancelling around us and they delayed our departure trying to fill every seat. The snow kept coming hard and fast. We required an additional de-icing. We were preparing to leave the gate area when we were told we needed to wait while they removed the snow from the runway. As that took several minutes, another de-icing was in order. We were pushing away from the gate when the pilot stated the plane needed to go back to the gate as it needed to be started. I KNOW! Basically there is some something that it couldn't do and there was something at the gate they could use. Some airplane jargon. At any rate, the mechanics had a bunch of paperwork to complete before they could even start. They finally got to do there thing and they closed the airport as they couldn't keep the runway clear. I was stuck at the airport. My rebooked flight in the morning was cancelled as Philadelphia airport closed. I was rebooked again for 1:20 in the afternoon and finally got home. It was an ordeal I do not care to repeat again.
This week has been something else when it comes to dealing with the Son. He wants to drive so bad he is actually resorting to having temper tantrums. "It's too humiliating to go to school". "I'm having a panic attack and need you to come and get me." "I can't take all the people laughing at me because my Mommy takes me everywhere." "Fxxk my life." "My life sucks." WHATEVER!!! He is a spoiled brat. He tells me he wants to hurt someone or something. I tell him he needs to get himself under control. If I need to come and get him I will but we will go to the ER as he is having trouble keeping himself and others safe. Funny.... Clears it right up. Comes home laughing with his buds. I swear, I want that kid to get his license more than he does just to get him off my back. He is wearing me out on a daily basis. Fits, tantrums, attitude. Taking crap out on me because things don't go his way.. Sheesh! I'll sell the darn car and then he can have a license but have to walk! Grrrrr....
This post was started on 2/2/2011 and just finished today, 2/8/2011. My graphic chip went out in my MacBook and I had it in the shop. Go figure....
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